i can tell one,when i spot one

...Do you believe in gut feelings? I can say that I am always guided by it.

...Each time that I am contacted by a seemingly nice guy, I always give myself time to "feel" if there is a possibility that this and that guy is going to be a good "relationship-material". I do not jump into conclusion and throw myself right away. I always give myself time to get to know him first even if it meant just "reading" his emails, and/or hearing his voice and analyze the way he converses with me...Please, don't accuse me of being too critical or cynical. My experiences has taught me quite a few important lessons, and I must admit that I did and still am taking some risks, just so, I'd be able to detect if the person is trustworthy enough to deserve me.

...Screening process is very important, and for me, it is NOT PLAYING HARD TO GET. It is just my way of protecting myself from future abusive and perilous relationship. There is no such thing as MR. PERFECT or MR. RIGHT, but at least, there must be someone out there who is MR. APPROPRIATE.

...It is okay to give love a try, and even more, it is okay to give someone a chance. However, for me, it is even better to be very careful NOT to make too many mistakes. Oftentimes, when I share my secrets to selected friends, I tell them honestly when I find someone who is a good candidate and someone with whom I DO NOT SEE MYSELF IN THE FUTURE...

Believe me, it's been proven quite a few times. When the person is WRONG for me, , I CAN TELL ONE, WHEN I SPOT ONE....

...And by the way, in fairness, there are a couple of those who seemed APPROPRIATE, but either LOVE did not find its way into my heart, or it was never meant to be...