Please!Stop Begging

I see MEN and WOMEN falling in and out of love. Some take things easily, while some take things very hard. Rejection may happen at the beginning, amidst, or towards the end of the romantic relationship. Some men show very little emotion and yet deep inside them, it could mean the end of the world. Women, by nature, are gifted with so much hope, that at times, believing that there's got to be a way of regaining something that was lost is a positive thing. Ain't nothin` wrong with that either. And it's A-okay to ask for someone to take you back..maybe once, maybe twice, and who knows?..thrice!...but "hell" NOthing beyond that..When a woman discards a man, chances are, he might still have a chance to win her back several times (No thanks to I STAND by my MAN expectations)..But when a man discards a woman, most of the time, no amount of tears can change his mind...It's true, Life is unfair, and so does the double standard...So why BEG?...They say, if you truly love someone, you set them free...While it is quite normal for men to kneel down to propose to a woman or to ask for forgiveness, on the contrary, it is "pitiful" to see a woman doing the same thing, specially when she is "Begging For Love"...I belong to the old school where women were treated like precious jewels and kept in a treasure chest...While it is painful to lose someone you love so dearly, it is even more painful to think that you have to beg for the affection that should be offered/showered to you, instead...Sometimes, letting GO is not a sign of failure, and neither being firm is a sign of arrogance...It's all about SELF-RESPECT..

trip fever...

In Love,it's ok to be foolish,at times,being an idiot

Until you're back to your senses!

But that is so true!..Even the smartest Wo/man can be a victim of the so called LOVE, so much so that s/he can be so foolish, s/he has not control over what s/he is doing, writing, saying, thinking, dreaming, and what have you.

At times, a person is actually making a fool of him/herself and s/he may have no shame showing to the world just what kind of a fool s/he might have been...His/her feeling is so real, we just have to believe it is happening....

and who are we to judge?..Let's just be happy that they are happy, and when they "wake up", let's just greet them, "how are you doing?, are you okay?

But seriously speaking, it is not a laughing matter, because those who experience being foolishly in love, no matter how smart they may have been prior to the feeling, are in fact walking in thin air or maybe on cloud 9..Ain't nothing` wrong with that, and not everyone are privileged to feel that way, hey!

The most important thing is that they believed they fell in LOVE and that whatever foolishness they've made, it was all worth it, at least, for the duration of the experience...

Now, going back to the senses: Once a person feels smart again, I believe s/he would be so embarrassed at the way s/he must have behaved...I mean, again, that is understandable, but WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE AGAIN?..You know what I'm saying

I think, I better sleep now...before I type something again...

i can tell one,when i spot one

...Do you believe in gut feelings? I can say that I am always guided by it.

...Each time that I am contacted by a seemingly nice guy, I always give myself time to "feel" if there is a possibility that this and that guy is going to be a good "relationship-material". I do not jump into conclusion and throw myself right away. I always give myself time to get to know him first even if it meant just "reading" his emails, and/or hearing his voice and analyze the way he converses with me...Please, don't accuse me of being too critical or cynical. My experiences has taught me quite a few important lessons, and I must admit that I did and still am taking some risks, just so, I'd be able to detect if the person is trustworthy enough to deserve me.

...Screening process is very important, and for me, it is NOT PLAYING HARD TO GET. It is just my way of protecting myself from future abusive and perilous relationship. There is no such thing as MR. PERFECT or MR. RIGHT, but at least, there must be someone out there who is MR. APPROPRIATE.

...It is okay to give love a try, and even more, it is okay to give someone a chance. However, for me, it is even better to be very careful NOT to make too many mistakes. Oftentimes, when I share my secrets to selected friends, I tell them honestly when I find someone who is a good candidate and someone with whom I DO NOT SEE MYSELF IN THE FUTURE...

Believe me, it's been proven quite a few times. When the person is WRONG for me, , I CAN TELL ONE, WHEN I SPOT ONE....

...And by the way, in fairness, there are a couple of those who seemed APPROPRIATE, but either LOVE did not find its way into my heart, or it was never meant to be...

sorry!! wrong number

Just having got to sleep last night,
And the cellphone rings
Wondering as I grope in the dark,
What bad news it brings

I never had the chance to say,
A sleepy word; "Hello"
When a guy spoke back to me,
Whispering soft and low

"Hello darling, have you missed me?
I haven't seen you in so long,
And I'm wishing I were in your arms,
Our parting was all wrong"

"I miss your tender kisses, and
Your loving touch,
The way you held me close at night,
I miss that, oh so much"

Now, what was there for me to say,
Except, "you woke me from a slumber
I'm sure that someone's missing you,
Sorry, wrong number"

dumb question!

Have you ever wondered why sometimes people ask dumb questions?

I have not really given much importance to analyzing whether a question is dumb or stupid until I read an article about it and realized then that, indeed, people I come in contact with could sometimes ask the dumbest questions.

Last night, just as I was about to close my computer, the phone suddenly rang and someone from the other end of the line asks, "gising ka pa?" ("Are you still awake?") Huh...you think I would still be answering the phone if I was asleep?!

Again, just recently, a friend and I were about to enter the movie house, when some acquaintance saw me and asked, "manonood ba kayo?" ("are you going to watch a movie?"). I wonder if holding a ticket, popcorn and soda wasn't obvious enough for anyone to see that we were going to watch a movie! It was a good thing my friend was with me otherwise I would have been tempted to blurt out, "of course not!...we're going in to order some pizza!"

...And I remember another instance where my niece and I were walking and someone accidentally steps on her toes and asks, "Ay sorry! masakit ba?" ("sorry! does it hurt?") Surely, it is painful when someone steps on one's toes! But my niece just smiled and uttered no, she was fine but wouldn't it have been nice to have answered, "How about if I step on your toes and see if it hurts?"

People may not be aware of how dumb their questions are or some may simply not know how to ask the question. But as long as it doesn't hurt anyone, still, a dumb question deserves a polite answer!

There have been times that I have been tempted to answer otherwise or just totally ignore the person but thanks to willpower and being taught early on to be polite, the sarcastic and not so nice comments that I have in my mind often do not leave my mouth! And besides, who knows, NO... I'm certain, I have unconsciously asked some dumb questions,too!

no divorce

in the Philippines << dictated by our being religious or by hypocrisy ?

Filipino society have long been aware of the " living in sin "
situations in many families in the Philippines.
but couldn't care less what other people do in their lives
as long as they do it behind close doors and couldn't care less about
how desperately unhappy a couple may be or how disturbed their children are
as long as appearances are kept..

so my question is,
why does the Church & State not see this and make changes ?
we have an entire body of people, tolerated by society per Sue, who we can say are living " irregular lives " but the leaders have not made a move to make it legal..
why do u suppose that is ?

i finally found

someone..

its a miracle!!.. i never planned for this to happen here because i have always been wary of people i meet in the internet..

but he is different, very different from others i have met here.. i sense that he is an honest person & means what he says.. i don't know why but i just know.. when before i have all these pre-qualifications for a man, i now believe that that special feeling u reserve for those you love will just get felt from out of nothing at all.. it just is.. i can't really explain why it happened but it just did..

maybe that's it.. you can't plan for it, that wonderful feeling just happens when you meet the right person & then your heart beats differently when you talk to him.. you want to bare your soul and you don't care about the outcome.. you see past everything physical and see right through to his soul and know that he is the one you have been waiting for.. that he is the one answer to your prayer..

as imperfect as i am, i will question my heart & why my mind did not filter this feeling.. i still do not believe this is happening that someone will love another person completely "blind" with no reservations.. love on the premise that he is sure that nothing will matter whatever or whoever i am, complete with all my faults, my past & all my idiosyncrasies..

i don't know what to say but i know i feel for him..i love him..

memories

Memories fade away
but these words
are here to stay.

In your moments of sadness
and despair,
there is a friend who cares.

A few are better at coping on their own,
understanding that this is how you want it
then let it be known.

Let Them walk Away

When People can walk away from you,
Let them Walk.

Don't try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring for you, coming to see you, or staying attached to you.

When People can walk away, Let them Walk.

Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

of Jerk and assholes

In today's cyber world, I wonder how many of you here have encountered some jerk or asshole. I and some friends have! It seems that whatever we end up doing online, we cannot completely avoid them!

But what exactly is a jerk or asshole? I know each one of us has some sort of notion of what one is like, but let's consult the dictionary.

The Webster's dictionary defines an asshole ( and I'm not referring to that part of our body!) as a supreme jerk, shithead, and a pain and annoyance. Other meanings given are a fatuous, contemptible, rude, sarcastic, thick-faced fool!

As we all know, they come in various size, shape and color and are known to make offensive comments and show a general disrespect for others (otherwise translated as "bastos" in pinoy language!), although I must say even a straightforward person may sometimes be unfairly accused of being one! Sometimes, they can say nasty things when they don't even know you at all. It's just that they think they are superior and can't take being ignored or not being the center of attention, (Kulang sa pansin(KSP) again in our language)so that their ego drives them to spew malicious words. What they do is not healthy and merely turns people away from them but then they already know that!

Now, with all the non-likable adjectives given to a jerk and asshole, isn't it quite easy for them to stand out and bow!?...even makes it more elementary for someone to spot one! Really, they're not worth a thought, but once in a while, they do get under your skin!

I think the best way to deal with them is to ignore them, to just walk away, you know....not stoop down to their level, no matter how difficult that may be!...and since the assholes and jerks have discovered the internet a long time ago, there's just no way of shirking one completely so let's keep an eye on them!

BATO BATO SA LANGIT,ANG TAMAAN HUWAG MAGALIT!

men more sexually active,women more satisfied

As i read in the internet,
it says,Women on the whole are much more satisfied with their sex lives than are men-
80% versus 54%. close to half of all men say they would like to have sex more often,
but only 18 percent of that women feel the same way.
Many say they don't believe sex before marriage; others feel comfortable having a sexual relationship with a man unless they are in love with him...

hmmmm... is it true? in my part I'm speechless,...