Personally, I make a conscious effort not to offend anyone.
I treat people the way I'd like to be treated which means fairly.
As a whole, we have to consider though that anything that is written or said in person is open to scrutiny. One just has to learn to take anything lightly. There are also exceptions to this such as those who write because the person is actually angry about someone or something and writing it down is their way of venting it out to get back at their offender.
In some cases, how someone treats another may be different behind a screen in comparison to how they will actually treat or deal with each other in person.
We also have to consider the person you are addressing which is sort of touched on by comment that being offended by something or someone can increase our understanding of how it feels to verbally hurt someone else and why we react to it.
Furthermore, some people can take certain jokes that aren't mean to be offensive better than others. Whilst others may find something offensive more than others perhaps due to the nature of the individual. S/he could be more touchy and hypersensitive. We've to learn to gauge what each person can handle or cannot handle. To be safe, it's better treating each person fairly the same way.
If by nature one is more touchy then one must learn to adapt to react in a calm manner to someone who will be intentionally rude and offensive. We can't go around thinking everyone is going to be nice in return despite how good you treat them. Like what Ms. Lady E said, some are just tactless by nature and couldn't care who gets hurts in the process.
When you're often the victim of offensive remarks, one has to grow a backbone. Otherwise one will find that s/he's often crying over spilled milk. However, I do realize most of us we'll get hurt by offensive remarks because we're in touch with our human emotions.
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