Vindictive love

When one experiences hurt, sometimes s/he has no ability to cope with it. There is a tendency to be spiteful, to take revenge, to purposely hurt back, to be resentful. But the sad part of it is that the desire to avenge from that painful experience is to hurt the "innocent", someone who is not directly involved with whatever ill feelings one is experiencing. In short, someone's got to be punished, somehow.. Is this fair?...Who cares? Someone's got to pay! No matter how much it'll cost that person...

I've heard tons of stories of women (mostly) who were wooed by men, and once they're swept off their feet in "love", the same men just "leave", with lots of alibis or without notice...Can you relate to this?

I've been enveloped with the fear of experiencing the same, so much so that I created a "wall" to protect myself from this misfortune. I was pretty close to ending up with it a couple of times in different situations (or so, I thought). But it is said that the walls we build around us to protect us from being sad and hurt, are the same walls that prevent us from experiencing the joys..And I guess, that is also true..

I was advised many times NOT to be too analytical. " Feelings are not supposed to be logical. Dangerous is the wo/man who keeps rationalizing his/her emotions. "

It is said that " All Is Fair In Love and War "...Let's not be vindictive..